Perfectionism & Procrastination Play
The top video is a story for your enjoyment and consideration that gets you thinking about perfectionism.
The second video introduces the lesson and gets you thinking about procrastination and your why, and the third video talks you through the ‘Hell No! Procrastination Process’ which you can use if you’ve decided that your procrastination strategy/habit is not serving you. The process is also available as a printable for your easy reference at the bottom of the page.
Finally, as an added bonus there’s another more light-hearted technique you can use to understand and interrupt (break) your strategy for either perfectionism or procrastination at the bottom of this page. This one is good if you have a partner who will ‘play’ with you, in doing so. Why the options? We’re coming to the end of the program, and so its appropriate that you utilise the confidence and clarity you’ve been developing to decide the strategies you are going to choose to use, to shape your epically evolving life and way of being. YES of course you can use both. Yes you can choose one. Yes, you can hold onto these for a later date/rainy day instead if you wish and YES of course we can go through any questions you may have at our weekly coaching/Q&A session. It’s all up to you! So ENJOY and I look forward to hearing how you go playing with these habits and processes!
Today’s topic is about habits that are not serving you – you might use this to release your procrastination habit/strategy, or to re-think a tendency towards anxiety or depression, just as 3 examples. This strategy is one that is done with a friend/partner (whose role is outlined in orange) and you (your role is outlined in green in the image below). Ideally that partner will understand sub-modalities (you can show them that video first and talk to them about it) and they will be good at interrupting you and asking ‘what if’ questions. So yes, your children could potentially be excellent at this! LOL.
Your job is essentially to explain to them in great detail EXACTLY how you do the habit that is not serving you. You need to explain it so well, its like you’re creating a manual/SOP on how to do it. Step back and see yourself doing it. Imagine too that they know nothing about how it is for you. Really explain it all step by step – how you know to to start (what do you see, hear, feel, focus on/tell yourself), HOW do you think about it specifically – what are the sub-modalities driving your behaviour (if you hear a voice, what does that sound like exactly? Is it loud? fast/slow? a particular person’s voice etc? How do you know when its OK to stop doing the activity? How specifically? (VAK stands for visual, auditory and kinesthetic sub-modalities).
Their job is to interrupt you at any (even every) point (frequently is actually good) with questions about what they could change, if they were going to try and replicate your habit, and whether that would still work to still create the ‘bad’ habit…
Your job is to imagine those changes and answer whether that would work or not.
At the end of the two-way conversation, they may want to repeat back to you the steps you’ve identified together and again, they’ll check if their alternative ideas could also work. You know, just to be sure and help you identify ways to create a more useful strategy.
Its a playful process, and each of you has a role to play in making it effective.